Is healing from trauma really possible?
What does healing from trauma actually look like, feel like, sound like; and how do you know if you are ‘healing’?
There is a broad assumption in our world that many, if not most people need to heal.
And while healing is a phenomenal process that can restore meaningful life to millions of people, and for which I am most grateful, I believe we are increasingly moving into a new understanding of healing, and I’m not alone.
Quieting the Fight, Flight, Freeze Response
Just as all children in the child welfare system have experienced different kinds of trauma, many birth, adoptive and foster parents involved with child welfare services have their own histories of childhood and/or adult trauma. Untreated traumatic stress has serious consequences for children, adults, and families. Traumatic events in childhood and adolescence can continue to impact adult life, affecting an adult’s ability to regulate emotions, maintain physical and mental health, engage in relationships, parent effectively, and maintain family stability.
Working with Parents and the Child Welfare System
Just as all children in the child welfare system have experienced different kinds of trauma, many birth, adoptive and foster parents involved with child welfare services have their own histories of childhood and/or adult trauma. Untreated traumatic stress has serious consequences for children, adults, and families. Traumatic events in childhood and adolescence can continue to impact adult life, affecting an adult’s ability to regulate emotions, maintain physical and mental health, engage in relationships, parent effectively, and maintain family stability.
A Note On Self-love
Clearly recognizing what is happening inside us, and regarding what we see with an open, kind and loving heart, is what I call Self Love. If we are holding back from any part of our experience, if we continue to move forward with shame or guilt about any part of our Self, if our heart shuts out any part of who we are and what we feel, we are fueling the fears and feelings of separation that sustain the trance of unworthiness. Self Love directly dismantles the very foundations of this trance.
I Cannot Give Away That Which Is Not Mine To Give
I cannot give away that which is not mine to give. Jules Alvarado, Mother to many I cannot provide peace, tranquility and calm to a wounded child, if I am not at peace and calm. I cannot provide safety to a child, if I do not feel safe inside. I must remember my...
5 Statements to Engage Clients of Trauma
While there has been considerable research into effects and treatments of trauma, little work has been focused on specific and brain based intervention strategies to help traumatized clients who are also avoidant of attachment. Many clients cope with traumatic...
From Chaos to Calm
Would you say that your daily experience is comprised of more Chaos, or Calm? Do you have more stressful minutes, or peaceful minutes throughout your day? Do you find yourself living intentionally, mindfully and consciously, or merely existing, pushing through another...
Trauma Informed Classrooms, Strategies & Training
Mindful and Trauma Informed Classrooms Using Emotional Regulatory Healing in the Schools In order to understand the importance of trauma and trauma informed classrooms, it is only necessary to look around the world in which our children are growing. In an age when a...
Secondary Traumatic Stress Recovery
Secondary Traumatic Stress Recovery We are responsible for the care of not just those who allow us into the sacred corners of their lives, but also to our own capacity for healing as well~ Each year more than 10 million children in the United States endure the trauma...
Ten Relationship Commandments
Ten Commandments of Relationship with self, spouse, partner, children, parent, peer or other based in Emotional Regulatory Healing by Juli Alvarado 2016 Relationship takes work! YUP, sorry to tell you, if you don’t work at it, relationship falls apart, every time....